Soulmates

Have you ever felt that undeniable attraction, that gravitational pull, that feeling that runs so deep that it touches your soul? It’s a feeling that is unexplainable and cannot be quantified or measured. It’s uncanny, surreal, and some say causes feelings and emotions never felt before. Have you found your soulmate?

A soulmate, someone whom you have an immediate connection and can relate to on every level. Someone who brings a sense of peace, calmness, and happiness to your life, instantly dispelling the harshness and unpleasantness that life can present. That person that fulfills a desire you never knew existed or experienced and makes you question and doubt everything prior. The sort of kinship that makes you yearn for and literally ache when you are apart. The most gratifying and satisfying personal experience you have ever encountered. The Yin to your Yang.

The question remains, is there such a thing as a soulmate? Furthermore, is that soulmate singular or can they manifest in multiple people? Do you believe there is someone out there specifically designed and created just for you? Not the notion that there is someone for everyone, but a unique individual whose character traits, likes and dislikes, predilections, aspirations, and desires are a perfect mesh. Or can you find those same idiosyncrasies in a multitude of diverse people and personalities? Or possibly it has to do more with where you are in your life and how you have evolved not only as a person, but more importantly, your outlook on life and what you truly desire from a mate and what will give you that ultimate happiness.

Despite it all, to find a love, a companion, that transcends the superficial, but sparks a kindred relationship that burns deep in the soul and opens itself to boundless options, is something mystic, divine, blessed and it’s the sort of relationship everyone dreams about, quietly speaks about, and meticulously seeks out. But it is a true labor of love, because there is no formula or time frame, and worse, no guarantee that it will ever come to fruition.

So keep searching, keep looking, keep pursuing your heart’s desire. It’s the journey, not the destination, that shapes the outcome and the more you discover the more you’ll be able to recognize. The more you’ll be able to separate and dissect and determine what’s best for you. And maybe, just maybe, as you continue on your journey, you will come across that person who ignites something in you so rare, so overwhelming, and so incredible that it causes you to slow down and explore a little deeper, stay a little longer, pursue a little harder, until one day turns into a lifetime. Never know what you may find or who may find you. You may find your solumate!

Comment, speak up, voice your opinions, share your stories. If you've found your soulmate, still in search of your soulmate, or feel you have lost your solumate, let us know. This isn’t just about U or just about Me, but all about We. The only way We grow is if We share, learn from, help, and support each other. Read the previous posts and comment on them as well. Suggest new topics and ideas, be active, spread the word.

Check back soon for the next post entitled, "Be Careful What You Ask For!"

Life Is a Theater

Below is a piece of literature from one of the most profound and inspirational experiences I have had in quite some time. I had the honor and pleasure of listening to a gentleman by the name of Dennis S. Brown and his motivational techniques and prowess truly inspired me and sparked what I hope to be a new way of thinking and living not only for myself, but for anyone who is seeking to live a happier and more abundant life. Read it a few times, let it sink in, and take a long look at who is sitting in the seats of your life and whether they really belong there or should they be kicked out! Enjoy, digest and comment.

LIFE IS A THEATER: Invite Your Audience Carefully

Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a DISTANCE. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of, or at least minimize your time with, draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of Your Life.

"If you cannot change the people around you, CHANGE the people you are around."

Remember that the people we hang with will have an impact on both our lives and our income. And so we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds. We should not share our dreams with negative people, Nor feed our dreams with negative thoughts.

It's your choice and your life..... It's up to you who and what you let in it...... Author Unknown

Can You "F?"

Okay, come back. It’s not what you think… or maybe it is. LOL I’m sure you are thinking BlakkDiamond has lost it, but before your mind wanders too far, let me clarify the title. Can U Forgive and Forget? I asked the question to a friend a while back and it sparked a serious debate. Can we forgive and forget, are they exclusive of each other, or is it a misnomer?

“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” Lewis B. Smedes

The Bible instructs us to forgive those who offend us seventy times seven times and although this may seem unrealistic to some, how many times have we fallen short and sought to be forgiven? But what happens when you are on the opposite side and you are the one wronged, offended, hurt or mistreated? How do you forgive the most egregious of acts, turn the other cheek, forgive those who have hurt you the most?

Truth be told, forgiveness is not for the offender, but for the offended. Forgiveness is a part of accepting what has been done and the beginning of healing. In order to forgive, you have to consciously come to terms with what has been done, accept it for what it’s worth, and decide to move past it. Easier said than done, but the fact of the matter is that in order to begin anew or proceed ahead, you have to be willing to forgive what has been done. The key to forgiveness is the ability to interact with, treat, or think of that person that harmed you in the same manner in which you thought of them prior to the offense. That is the true measurement of forgiveness, to not let what transpired alter or diminish they way you perceive them or treat them. We all have made mistakes or failed in some way, but does that mean we are a lesser person?

But forgetting? That’s a whole other issue. How do you forget what has been done? How do you forget the pain it caused, the betrayal, the feeling that everything you once thought to be true has been snatched away? Although forgiveness is expected, forgetting is virtually impossible. But what you learn and how you move forward determines plenty. In every incident there is a lesson and some experiences aren’t meant to be forgotten, but instead learned from. They are meant to teach us, open our eyes, and help us grow. On the other hand, sometimes you have to just forget about it, let it go, and decide not to live in the past. Holding onto the past and letting it fester and build is not beneficial to anyone and only leads to more pain and discord. Forget the faux pas, but learn the lesson.

Whatever may occur, it is up to you to forgive and/or forget. Remember it’s a two-way street. We all will falter at one point or another and it is at that moment that will determine the rest of the story. So, the next time you are faced with the dilemma of forgiving and forgetting, remember what's at stake and what you are striving towards. Then take a look in the mirror and think about how you would want to be treated.

Check back soon for the next post entitled, "Soulmates."